Anonymous asked: I'm a girl and I always feel guilty after I masturbate. Is this normal?
You probably feel guilty because society says it’s not normal for a woman to take her sexuality into her own hands. At least that’s my opinion. It’s still considered shameful for a woman to discuss masturbating even though it’s perfectly normal for a man to do so. There’s nothing wrong, dirty or shameful about touching yourself. It’s totally normal to do so and enjoy it!
Anonymous asked: Hi! My girlfriend and I want to buy our first strap-on... Problem is, neither of us have ever even gone near a toy before. Do you have any tips on what we should get? Also what's your favorite way to use one? By the way, your pictures are lovely! ;)
Start small and sturdy. Don’t go for a cheap harness just because it’s cheap. Invest in something durable because if it’s flimsy and weak it’s hard to use so you never end up using it! As far as dildos go, start small. Don’t over do it with the first one. Test the waters with a small to medium sized silicon dildo that will fit in a harness.
Anonymous asked: I had sex with this girl, and it was my first time, but it was while we were having a threesome, and I want to ask her how it was but we really haven't talked about it since and I don't want to make things awkward. How do I bring it up??
Just be like “Hey, I know it’s been awhile so this might be weird, but I was wondering what you thought of our threesome…was it good for you?”
You already had sex, you should be able to talk to her :P
Anonymous asked: I am a senior and I have been dating my boyfriend since I was in 8th grade. We have sex every once in a while and I do enjoy it a lot, but I love masturbating to girls and only to girls and if I see vagina or breasts it turns me on, although I have never imagined myself with a girl. Am I bisexual?
I can’t tell you your sexuality for you. But I can tell you that what we touch ourselves to porn-wise is not always an indicator of our sexuality. If I like watching a dude fuck a girl, it doesn’t mean I want to be fucked by a guy!
Anonymous asked: there is a girl i really like. we arent dating yet but she really likes me too. last night i saw her briefly but then went and had a bunch of sex with a girl i dont like (but who i very much like sex with). i dont think i did anything wrong. did i?
No. But you should be upfront with this girl you want to date about the other girl. Secrets are never a good way to start a relationship.
I kinda did the same thing to a lesser extent. Katy and I were in this weird thing where we were sleeping together for a week before we were dating. And I wanted to date her, but we were very definitely not a couple at that point. And the night before we became a couple, I made out with this person who I’d always thought was hot but I had no interest in dating. I felt guilty even though I didn’t do anything wrong. I talked about it with Katy and everything was cool.
Anonymous asked: i'm a lesbian and i'm confused to how girls can have sex with each other when we have the same parts. can people claim to not be a virgin when having same gender sex?
Sigh. Not all girls have the same parts. People can be virgins regardless of their sexual history because virginity is a relative term that is defined by the individual.
Anonymous asked: i haven't been sexually active before but i'm starting to get to that stage. i'm worried about pubic hair. is that a turn off? should i get a bikini wax? i heard those hurt..
It’s your body! If you like and are comfortable with your pubic hair, there’s no need to wax it off. If it’s something you are uncomfortable with, yes, waxing hurts. Shaving leaves itchy bumps! Laser hair removal is really the only non-ouchy one. But I’m a big proponent of pubic hair, so my advice is to leave it alone unless you are uncomfortable with it!
Anonymous asked: I'm 21 and just started having sex. I was sexually abused for several years as a kid and until recently have been terrified of putting anything inside of me. Well I recently fell in love with this guy and have begun having "sex" with him. I don't actually put his penis all the way in my vagina but I use it as like a dildo to stimulate my clit. I've masturbated in the past so know what an orgasm is, but am confused about the difference between orgasming and cuming. (cont)
“cont… I don’t produce a huge flow of fluid like my boyfriend does when I orgasm. He always asks me if I came and I don’t really know. Do you have to cum to orgasm? Can you enlighten me about the difference? Thanks.”
There’s no difference. It’s a just a difference in terms that is used. Cuming, coming, orgasming, climaxing, different names for the same thing!
Anonymous asked: I’m a gold star who has always dated other gold stars. My girlfriend now is bisexual. I have NO problem with this. I figure if she likes me now, it shouldn’t matter who she has liked in the past, right? But other people in my life dont see it that way? People ask me if she’s gay, and I don’t know what to do with their reactions when I tell them she’s not.
Well what are their reactions like? First of all, you should remember that your partner’s sexuality isn’t really their business in the first place. I would just let them know that. Let them know it’s none of their business and she’s with you now which clearly means she is attracted to you! And that’s all that matters!
Anonymous asked: i know its really bad to fake orgasms, but ive never had one. i know faking it isnt going to help my partner learn to give me one, but the problem is i have already been faking for a while. how do i stop? i dont want to TELL her ive been faking, but i also dont think i can just stop faking it, or she will be confused why ive stopped orgasming (she thinks) all of a sudden. what do i do?!
Well you’ve got to stop lying to your partner. That’s a terrible thing to do. Be straight with her. Tell her what you’ve been doing.